Don’s
Diary
Tribute to True Love & My Wife Yvonne
It is
likely that you will only ever find one person with whom you will want to place
your trust, your love, completely share your life and help create you
successors; succession of the blood-line probably being the true purpose of
life.
There
are things that you will want to share with them that you have never told
another person and they will listen without judgment and make it easy for you
further bare your soul, forever holding those secrets in their heart and never
to be repeated. You will want to share
the same goals and aspirations but when your hopes are dashed and you are
filled with disappointments there will only be consolation, enthusiasm and
encouragement for the future. There will
be excitement, however, when your goals have been realised. They will provide a balance between your hope
and enthusiasm and always be understanding and strongly and be publically
supportive if necessary. There will be a
synergy in your relationship.
Any
self-doubt will be countered by a realistic and balanced encouragement and
appropriate suggestions on how to find a better way, to make the best use of
your strengths and how to compensate for your weaknesses. There will be a shoulder to comfort you if
there are tears in your eyes or if you have done something stupid but there
will never be censure or criticism.
You
will never want to hurt each other or cause any embarrassment especially in the
presence of others. Life and
achievements will never be a competition with jealousy or pressure between you
both, but an opportunity in its journey to work constructively for your common
good and the happiness of those near and dear to you. You will never take each other for granted but
will treat each other with the utmost love and respect for who you are and what
you do and think. You will give each
other “space” to develop and grow, values, loyalty and trust obviating the
perceived need for control.
The
little things are important, the things that you do together, the mementos that
you treasure, the happy times when you laugh together, mutual friends, your
memorable meals and other special occasions.
In your journey through life you will both want you make opportunities
for your joint happiness. There will be
no “mind games”. You both will be
sensitive to the times when the other party is not ready to be told about or
discuss a difficult issue when it arises.
There will never be arguments about domestic responsibilities and things
will just work because of your love and mutual support. Every day should begin with thoughts on how
it can be made happy as if it is the last day of your life together.
I know
that there can be love at first sight: there will be a chemistry that binds you
from your first encounter throughout life and after death. You will be able to communicate your feeling
without words but just with a touch, glance or merely being nearby. Only after death you will realise just how
trivial some issues in life have been and you will dwell on the lost opportunities
for happier, fuller life: whether you got the right balance between work and
saving v. retirement and recreation
You
with your life’s partner will have experienced a love and joy that you never
dreamed possible in your youth. You will
have lived a life with enormous strength in knowing you have had a true friend
and a soul mate that remained loyal to the end. It will have made life seem
completely different, exciting, fulfilling and worthwhile.
There
are likely to be too many good memories which will forever be in your mind and
your age will probably limit your desire and capability to seek, let alone find
another person to share the remainder of your life. You will be lucky to find the one person with
whom to share your life but it has to be the right person.
Yours fraternally,
Don Paterson
