Apart from our Masonic ritual,
I do not know of any theatre that so concisely provides a guide for our morals
and behaviour. It’s beautiful prose
appeals to our emotions and reflects accurately our own life’s
experiences. However, the feeling of
remorse that the majority of us will have experienced is not addressed. It could easily and legitimately been have
been included in the story of the ruffians when they were found, when we
contemplate steering the barque of this life and in similar passages.
Remorse is a feeling of deep regret
or guilt for a wrong or an act felt to be shameful, uncaring, hurtful, or
violent that you have committed or action that you should have taken to avert
this situation: contrition, repentance, sorrow, shame - self pity, reproach
accusation and condemnation. It can
happen in relationships that should be important and close to you, where trust
has been betrayed, and sometimes as a result of situations in commercial
arrangements. It is not regret because
you have been found out or caught. Deep
remorse can hang like a dark cloud over your happiness for a lifetime.
A person who is incapable of
feeling remorse is often said to have an antisocial personality disorder. I have read where such psychopathic
individuals are best known for their flagrant disregard for social
and moral norms. They have dysfunctional
personal relationships, characterized by
of a sexual nature often preying on the young, naive and homeless. Emotionally, they are incapable of feeling guilt
or empathy, they respond abnormally to fear and pain, and other
emotions are shallow compared to population norms. Psychopaths refuse to adopt social and moral
norms because they are not swayed by the emotions, such as guilt, remorse, or
fear of retribution, that influence human beings. They do not apologise for their behaviour or
even see the need to do so, withdrawing within their cocoon and possibly
creating their own reality by using drugs.
In a rare moment of personal reflection they may be suicidal.
It is said that psychopathic
individuals often have superficial charm and show insincere signs of
affection. Many share certain characteristics
such as a callous-manipulative interpersonal style, impulsivity,
the need for control and an inability to establish and maintain a marital
relationship. I read where positive
correlations have also been reported between psychopathy and narcissistic, borderline, paranoid, and schizoid personality disorders, panic
and obsessive–compulsive disorders, but not neurotic
disorders in general, schizophrenia, or depression.
So if you know someone who does
not seem to display remorse, there may be a lot of serious issues underlying
his or her personality and help should be sought as soon as possible.